I’ve been noticing a huge trend in my coaching these days.
A trend around granting permission.
I have found myself in this same boat numerous times. Finding myself searching for the permission that really could only come from within. Realizing that I am the only person in my way. I’m the one who has the power to grant myself the permission to do, be, feel, you name it. But what is it about us not being enough that we are always looking outside ourselves to get the go-ahead? The go-ahead to go after our dreams. That yes, you are making the right choice. Yes, you are allowed to feel that way.
So, what is it for you? Where are searching for answers that you could actually answer for yourself?
For this week’s post, I thought it might be kinda cool to give yourself a giant permission slip. Maybe it’s permission to actually not be happy that you’re pregnant again. [gasp!] Maybe it’s permission to not know what you want. Permission to not want to get married. Permission to love what you love. Permission to have a crush on someone you aren’t married to. Permission to be relieved that so-and-so passed away. Permission to not love that person who you think you SHOULD. I use these as extreme examples for a reason. I think one of the areas we get the most hung up on is how we are supposed to feel. Based off of what? Society? Conditioning? How we were raised? What if you just gave yourself the permission to truly honor your own feelings? What would shift?
You are allowed to FEEL whatever you feel. Period.
Now I would be remiss if I didn’t offer up a small disclaimer here: what you DO with those feelings is a completely different thing. You are completely responsible for your actions and please don’t misinterpret my message here. You may feel like killing someone, but that doesn’t mean that you should ACT on it. Nor am I saying go have an affair. But what if you didn’t vote on how you felt? What if you allowed yourself the freedom to truly experience your emotions? Be messy. Crash and burn even. You get my point. What you feel is yours, but how you ACT is a completely different story. So, don’t go actin’ a fool or harm yourself or others because you think you got the green light from me. Not what I’m saying. So be fucking responsible.
I’m talking about the way you are holding yourself back. Where you are searching for approval where you don’t actually need it.
Ok, so let’s get back to the main point. What is it for you? What have you been voting on?
Oh, I should be so grateful for x, y, z…
Oh, I should, should, should…
What if you granted yourself a big-ass permission slip to just be? To feel what you feel?
Alright, so here it is. Your big-ass permission slip. Make a conscious choice right now to give yourself the permission to ________________. Whatever it is for you. Whatever you are hungry for permission for. Print out this bad boy down below and write it out. Print out a ton of them if you want. Whatever. Just stop fucking censoring what you allowed to feel.
And then report back here and tell me where you are granting yourself permission.
You deserve it, my love.
My Big-Ass Permission Slip – PDF
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