Guest post by Maureen Clancy
You know this feeling. It can show up as a small persistent voice, nagging at you from the sidelines, or a big booming thing, with a big attitude.
You’ve tried ignoring it, silencing it, stuffing it down. All kinds of ways. But the feeling comes back.
When you tell them how you feel, the people in your life usually point out all the ways that you are indeed good enough. It’s nice to hear, but the feeling comes back.
Deep down, you know that you’re meant for big things. You are meant to have a life you love. You are meant to go for and reach your dreams. This feeling keeps you playing small.
Here are 3 things you can do when this “not good enough” feeling shows up:
Adopt the idea that this feeling is just a part of you … it’s not the whole story. You may notice other parts of you inside, too. No, you don’t have multiple personality disorder if you notice other parts. We are all made up of parts. Begin to call this feeling your “I’m not good enough” part. This can help shrink it down to a more realistic size.
Say to yourself “There’s my I’m not good enough part, showing up again.” Don’t pretend it’s not there. This comes under the heading of ignoring it. Acknowledging it can change your relationship with this part, from negative to neutral. This simple shift is powerful.
This part began with an experience from your past. Take a step back and be curious about when and where it first showed up. See what you notice. You may gain some insight about it that you never knew.
Want to dive deeper? Join me for Inner Moves — a 6-week shindig with your “I’m Not Good Enough” part. All the details are here. It begins October 7th, and there’s room for you.
Maureen Clancy is a holistic psychotherapist, workshop leader and artist, based in central New Jersey. You can find her at www.maureen-clancy.com.
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