Every day I look out, into the growing number of women and men, manifesting their visions into time and space. Answering the inner call of their younger selves returning the question of who do you see yourself serving. Every day, I have an opportunity to bear witness to SO many I admire, making their ideas a reality in an effort to reach out to touch someone.
I am on the bleachers, staring into the playing field, watching the coach… direct those who are yearning to play. Constantly finding and introducing innovative and challenging ways to help their team hit a home run. I see multitudes of those, coming out in droves, interested to sign up to try out, with anticipation and nervous energy.
I see these leaders, these coaches showing up every day at “practice”, giving it all they got to assist those players who are interested in finding their own success through repetition and affirmation and I am MOVED when I see someone slide into home, with their head held high and the warm, supportive glance they receive from the person who taught them how to do what they do, celebrating them.
Every day I see this happening.
I am in awe, when I see these coaches, these artists, teachers, and inspirers create their playing field on the websites and communities that have been built up around us. Giving it all they got to show US how to be a success in the game we want to play.
As I have written in my previous post, I am still in the process of accepting the knowing, the blessing, the gift, that I… am one of these coaches.
I have no words to express my joy when I meet someone who has come to me for help with their swing, hit that home run that sends the ball (their relationship, their life) streaming out of the park. I am motivated solely by my inner knowing that everyone can overcome their own fears and step out onto the mound with a greater understanding of what happens when the ball (life) comes at them and uses the tools they have learned from coming to practice every day.
I have been inspired to coach a specific type of player, with certain parameters and challenges, towards understanding the game on which they play on every day. As someone who is focused on one type of person/relationship/experience, I am able to locate the specific pain points and offer relief using terminology and exercises that are directly related to the field they are playing on.
I know their strengths, and I know what prevents them from seeing their strength.
I use this information to guide them in their practicing, repeating the same motion, over and over, as part of bringing out the VIP in themselves, that they might not currently know currently exist at this time. While these players themselves are not unique to the rest of the world having a human experience, it’s the parameters, limitations, celebrations and misconceptions that brings these players to seek me out that they find their greatest joy and share their greatest sorrow.
My experience directing a team of specific players, versus a person with a broader view, has been an enlightening decision, with both its pros and cons, so I decided in this post to share with you two insights I experience as I continue on my journey. By sharing one strength, and one challenge, I am hopefully assisting those up and coming coaches (or those who are interested in narrowing or changing their field) with some insights into which direction to go.
My first insight, a strength, I feel almost silly sharing out loud. It’s something that has surprised me as my team has grown, focusing on their daily practices and in doing that, guiding them to be the best during the game. I have heard it said time and time again, that building a business is NOT like the phrase used in the movie “Field of Dreams…
Build it and they will come.
In my experience, they have come and they continue to do so.
The more I focus on who my specific player is, showing up for practice at every opportunity, explaining the parameters, what challenges them to be the best player and how to celebrate in their success, the more I have found new souls in the same situation as my team, interested to play and in turn, curious to see what being on my team is all about.
I am always in the process of seeking out new players to sign up to try out, but knowing exactly who I am playing with, I have a more instinctive sense as to where to find my exponentially growing team.
For me, my own daily practice is to mold the MESSAGE of what I’m saying so that I can create motivation to inspire my specific team of players to be the best they can be. As you know or you will come to find out, whether it’s specific or broad, helping your team take action to do the daily practices can create great resistance within. Finding an encouraging word or pep talk that resonates can make the difference between a team that goes onto the World Series, and one that is content to stay in the dugout.
In no way does knowing who I’m specifically guiding make the task at hand any easier, it just gives me fewer, more concentrated places to look for the cause of the pain, and how to reap in the rewards.
The other side of that very same coin, my own personal challenge, is how I feel when I see other coaches helping their players with a broader, more universal message of what they can bring to their game when they come to practice every day.
As I mentioned, while my players have specific parameters, they are no different when it comes to what inspires and blocks them from being ON TOP OF THEIR GAME, and I have seen with a wider MESSAGE, one can attract a broader (and usually larger) crowd of interested prospective players to try out and then come to practice, in order to give them a taste of the many ways they can work on their skills and talents.
I am challenged not to focus on the larger crowd as a way of comparing my own skill as a coach and a leader, in both their and my own success, my ability to acquire the funding to support the team, and instead, to continue to focus on being the best coach I can to those I am meant to serve.
To remain on the narrower path that has always felt like it has chosen me.
Inevitably, when the moment arises and I see a larger crowd gathering at a bigger field to play on, I have a moment of doubt that I too, should consider widening my field, in an effort to make a bigger impact, to those interested in learning how to play as well as to my own personal obsession to assist those who are longing for someone to see them and help them with their swing. While I have yet to bring my team to the championship game, in these moments of peering over at the larger field, a feeling of compression, of pressure, that I have made myself too small overwhelms me, and it always leaves me feeling off my OWN game for an inning or two.
In those moments, I find giving myself a time out, sitting in the dugout, helps to get my head back into what brings me to THIS field, with this team and these players, and in a short matter of time, navigating back onto that field where I can focus on doing my best work. What resonates within me, in my clarity, is while my preferred players might have a narrower situation or parameter going on, the discoveries and revelations of what can come from them doing their best, no matter what the result, is beyond what size field I’m on, how many players I have or what exercises are involved at practice every day. The results are the SAME, no matter how wide or how narrow: release, freedom, purpose, joy and peace.
My ultimate desire is the moment when we ALL get to run into the field, waving our hands in joy, screaming our messages of celebration, upon winning that championship, whether if it’s to celebrate in one persons relationship, releasing the resistance that come from reshaping old beliefs, OR… coming together UNDEFEATED as a whole team, I know it is no coincidence that I am called to direct, to challenge, to coach in this, my own field of dreams.