I talk a lot about self-care, it’s my thing, it’s what I do, it’s how I live and what I love.
To me, self-love equals self-care, and self-care equals self-love. The two are so intimately connected that they fall into each other.
When you’re taking care with yourself, you are showing yourself love.
When you show yourself love, you are taking care with yourself.
But there was a time not all that long ago where self-care was a foreign concept, where it sounded like something cool and fun, but also like something I had no idea how to start.
The thought of creating a practice was too big, because I wasn’t sure what it meant, I didn’t know how to start.
So, let me help you start.
What I need to tell you is this: A self-care practice is simply a group of things you do that feel good to you, that recharge your body, heart and soul.
It’s something you can lean on when you have a rough day. It’s something that, the more you do, the more intuitive it becomes: to comfort yourself, to love yourself, to take care with yourself, to honor yourself.
Your practice can take so many different shapes and forms, and they are all right, they are all perfect.
I want to share some jumping off points with you, some places where you can begin.
Because beginnings are often the hardest part, the most challenging point, just to get to a space where you say Yes, I’m ready, yes I can do this, yes, I want to do this.
34 Ways to Begin your Self-care Practice
- Take a five-minute break, wherever you are, close the door, close your eyes, breathe deeply and relax. You deserve this.
- Make a mug of tea, treat yourself to your favorite latte or smoothie. Delight your senses with taste and flavors.
- Move your body – dance, go for a walk or run, do yoga or some deep stretching, heck even skip around your house. Twirl, hula hoop, do the running (wo)man, jump up and down like a human pogo stick – whatever feels good to your body in this moment.
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- Turn off the computer, unplug for an hour or for a day to see how it feels.
- Hug your child or your partner or your best friend or your kitten.
- Say thank you. And say thank you again. Then say it again.
- Breathe deep and smile.
- Go outside and feel the sunshine on your face or let the raindrops kiss your cheeks.
- Explore essential oils – they can be used so many different ways, they’ve become a fixture in my self-care practice.
- Light your favorite candle or burn a stick of incense – make the space you are in sacred.
- Become a Self-love Warrior.
- Walk around barefoot, completely connect to the ground beneath you.
- Give yourself an at-home spa day: Take a hot shower, shave your legs, paint your toenails, put on a mud mask. If you want to get really crazy, pluck your eyebrows.
- Go to sleep early, let yourself rest. Or, take a catnap – closing your eyes for a half hour can do so much for attitude and outlook.
- Write a letter to your younger self and celebrate how much you’ve done and how far you’ve come.
- Take yourself out to dinner. Dress up or down.
- Put on your favorite cozy pants and top and spend an evening in watching your fave guilty pleasure TV show.
- Turn your phone on silent, or completely off.
- Meditate. If that’s not really your thing, sit quietly and breathe.
- Wake up early and watch the sunrise. Greet the day and set an intention.
- Write in a paper journal, let your mind freeflow and see what comes out and what you let go of.
- Make out with your partner.
- Get creative – paint, take photographs, color.
- Get creative – cook, rearrange furniture, bake.
- Acknowledge how you take care of others, and that it’s a beautiful thing to take care of you, too.
- Read a book – whether it’s trashy or chick lit or a volume of poetry or fiction.
- Watch the sunset and write down the best part of your day.
- Call your best friend and get some voice time in.
- Praise and praise and praise : Remember these instructions for a body.
- Name three things that you flat-out love about yourself.
- Own your shit. Few things are as empowering and powerful as being honest and upfront with yourself (and with others).
- Take a mental health day – play hooky, rest, recharge and renew.
- Remember that where you are, in this moment, is exactly where you are supposed to be.
What are your favorite things to do when you need a little comfort? When you need to recharge your batteries, what are your go-to places for renewal and peace?
A pretty day to you,