This is my message to you (if I could shout it from rooftops)

You are all worthy of love & pleasure. Yes, you.

You are beautiful, an exquisite work of art. Every freckle on your body, every ripple in your skin is meant to be there. You are perfect the way you are in this moment.

You have within you the ability to create your little miracles & successes. If you stay mindful & full of intention, abundance will have no choice but to flow in your direction.

Just believe, & keep your heart wide open in the process.

Never forget that you were created from pure sexuality, thus you encompass the very nature of that delicious pleasure. You are voluptuous, erotic. It is naturally, gorgeously in you; you just need to channel it.

Never stop channeling it.

Explore your sensuality. Express it in ways that will inspire others.

Stay mindful of your influence in this world.

Be consciously aware of the thoughts that enter your mind.

Listen to the messages your heart is trying to convey to you.

Celebrate your uniqueness.

Stay open-minded & curious.

Pay more attention to the honeyed words you receive than the fault-finders. Tell your inner critic to shut its mouth; you don’t have to listen.

Follow your dreams, even the ones that are not seemingly practical. Aspire to do great things. Pioneer your way to success.

Never stop creating masterpieces; never stop dirtying your hands. Immerse yourself in your passions & desires.

Continue walking with your head high. Continue exuding goodness & kindness.

Your life is immensely precious. Live it, cherish it, enjoy it.

This is my message to you.

 

Yours in love & in liberation,


Your sensuality/sexuality can be expressed anywhere

One of the biggest misconceptions I’ve ever believed is that my sensuality/sexuality is only limited to my bedroom; that there isn’t any room (or relevance) for those things to be expressed anywhere else.

So I kept them separate. I locked away my wanton seductress side & let it lie dormant during the daytime, only to have it awaken during the evening where I then released my desires & gave them attention. In doing this, I was indirectly telling myself that my sensuality/sexuality was only meant to come out not only in my bedroom but at night, where the carnal activities between my lover & I were most likely to happen.

I didn’t realize the depths of my unintended suppression until I had sex, randomly, in the afternoon in the middle of my studio apartment.

On the one hand, my mind was scrambling; it was as though it couldn’t compute my decision to break the rules, & therefore became quite confused. I could feel myself trying to get out of it (‘it’ being the sumptuous, hot sex I was rearing to have): No, my mind was saying, we’re not in the bedroom! It’s two o’clock in the afternoon! Your sexual prowess isn’t due to be let out for another seven hours!

Protesting. Hesitation. Haranguing. Second thoughts.

On the other hand… as I was peeling off my clothes in a fury of lust, I was utterly enjoying myself. Hormones were raging. Bodies were colliding into each other. The moment was being seized, & my body was taking it all in. Yes, it seemed to express; Oh, yes. This is heavenly.

Temptation. Voluptuousness. Delicious lack of self control. Heart fluttering.

The pleasure of the present got so overwhelming that I found myself telling my brain to shut its mouth.

A peculiar thing happens when you let your sensuality do the talking, walking, breathing: You immerse yourself fully in life. You dive deeply into pleasure. You muster the courage to be audacious. You are beautifully alive.

This, if you need to be reminded, is the way life is supposed to be lived.

This post is not just a lesson in letting your sensuality/sexuality peek through the activities you busy yourself with throughout the day. It is also a reminder to remain ever present within your world, your body, your urges. It is a nudge for you to not suppress your desires, but to let them trickle out of you as naturally as they formed.

Allow yourself the privilege of living out your sensuality/sexuality in your daily life, not just in the bedroom but in the way you bag your groceries, in the way you shower, in the way you walk to the mailbox, in the way you go for your evening run. Never forget that you ARE sensuality/sexuality; you were born from it, so embody it.

Always.


Unadulterated self-love: Meet Ev’Yan and go on a journey towards vulnerability

My name is Ev’Yan & I write over at Sex, Love & Liberation, a blog that provokes unabashed self-discovery in the form of sex, love, & (of course) liberation. It’s really as simple (& profound) as that.

Getting to this place where I openly write about intimacy, self-love, body image, & becoming vulnerable has been completely unexpected. For a long time, there was a part of me dying to fully express the deepest parts of my being outside of my personal/fashion blog Apricot Tea… I just didn’t realize that until February of this year. It hit me like a ton of bricks. After acknowledging this desire, a whirlwind of emotions & inspiration hit me, & suddenly I was in the throes of creation, writing prose about sex & porn, discovering the depths of my own openness, & manufacturing a solid manifesto to pair with my blog.

It all happened so fast.

But I adore it. This is what I was created to do.

Through SL&L, I am able to express a side of me that I’ve kept hidden, seemingly locked away for “safe keeping,” when really I was just ignoring my own greatness. I have no excuse to do that any longer, for I believe in practicing what I preach, & this means completely embodying everything that SL&L stands for. This is so good for me. My journey in self-discovery in these four short months has taught me so much.

I’ve also been able to connect with people that help me further my purpose & inspire me to keep doing what I’m doing. Roots of She is just one of those glorious connections.

Through Roots of She, I’ll be popping in once monthly to give you a lovely dose of sultriness, abundant honesty, & unadulterated self-love. It truly is my pleasure to do so.

Thank you for allowing me to use this space to spread my truth. If you’d ever like to get in touch with me, feel free to shoot me an email or say hello on Twitter.

I am happy to know you.


Today I want to share with you a poem that ignites my fire every time I feast my eyes on it.

It’s brash, it’s bold, it’s voluptuous — it gives me the chills every single time.

In sharing it with you, it is my hope that you become inspired to act out your sexual desires today; to give yourself pleasure & become one with your sex.

Indulge in it. Revel in it. You are worthy (& beautifully made up) of this delicious kind of eroticism.

Enjoy.

Why I Love Your Body

I put your body
between me
and the history of horrors

your sweet tongue
snaking through my lips

your heavy breasts
thudding ripe on my ribs

your thin legs climbing mine
like twin grape vines

your creamy wetness
creeping through my fingers

when your body bursts over me
my mind goes almost quiet
faintly squeaking to itself
like a fruit bat dozing
upside down.

I put your body
between me
and the terrifying future
of my body

tonight I’m a noisy swamp
squelching under your bare toes.

By Dorothy Porter, from Crete (Hyland House, 1996)