A couple months ago I decided to pierce the other side of my nose. I’ve had a hoop on the right side for 8 years. It’s a part of me now. I hyper analyzed piercing the other side. I waited and waited. Worrying that it was “too much.” Then a couple months ago I just leapt and did it. I’m not sure why it took me so long, I really love it and it feels like it belongs there. I have two piercings in my nose, some people would consider that to be a bit too far. One piercing, trendy, cool, whatever. Two…. that’s a bit “over-the-top.”
I also love to wear a lot of chunky wood and retro plastic bracelets and I especially like it if they don’t match what I’m wearing. Sometimes I wear the purple one with the yellow one and the orange one. Sometimes I wear them all. It’s not for everyone. But it’s for me. I feel naked if I leave the house and don’t have at least one bracelet on.
My favorite eyeliner is purple, but sometimes I love a bright green shadow with black eyeliner. But just now, writing that I thought why not a purple liner and green shadow?
You know the fashion rules like; don’t wear navy with black, or match your handbag to your shoes? Yea. Those are my favorite rules to break. Who gets to decide what I like or what colors I feel best in? Me. Because I’ve given myself permission to go over the top.
To push the envelope, to wear Converse with a skirt AND jeans. To wear a teal bandana, big wood earrings AND pink boots.
The really amazing thing is that this doesn’t apply just to fashion. It applies to life.
I’ve lived my life against the grain. Getting engaged at 16 to a boy I knew for two months. I married him 5 months after I graduated. I had 3 babies in 5 years. (Yes I exceeded the 2.5 rule) I stayed in a marriage that surely most people would’ve walked out of. I adopted a child with special needs. I dreaded my hair. I sold all that I owned and moved into a 300 sq. foot motorhome and traveled the country. I spent 4 months living on unemployment and sweet potatoes. I shaved my head. I got tattooed. I moved to the land of frozen winters. The list goes on and on.
Are these the “over the top” choices for everyone. No. (In fact if you did all these same exact things, I might think that you have no idea who you really are.) These are the choices that are, and have been right for me. When I read through this list, I see my authentic genuine self. When others read through it they may think “What the hell is wrong with her?”
My over the top and yours are different. But none the less, you need to know it’s ok to stand out. It’s ok to not match. It’s ok to do that thing in your heart that makes no sense to anyone but you. It may seem out of reach, it may seem years away.
But if it’s in your heart, it’s there for a reason. It it feels right to you, (or on you), then don’t deny yourself.
Here’s your permission slip. I’ve signed and notarized it for you.